Based on the teen and young adult clients in my practice, my observation is that they are doing very well, if not thriving.
Despite what you might be hearing, many students are managing just fine. The clients in my practice have worked on organization, focus, and mindset which has made a huge difference in their success both in the classroom and at home.
The students possess a strong desire to succeed and they are adjusting to their individual school’s classroom protocol. As expected, they miss their friends and social activities and are doing their best to connect in a safe way.
College students are busy academically and many are looking forward to a long break. For many, it is Thanksgiving until the end of January. They generally have realistic expectations for the next year and their moods are cautiously optimistic.
WHAT IS WORKING
The students let their parents know that they need help. Parents have responded by setting up a consultation with me and exploring what is possible through coaching.
The clients have taken responsibility for their new reality and are organizing their workspaces and setting a workable schedule.
They are able to look at mishaps as opportunities for further learning and growth.
Parents are allowing their children (high school and college) to be responsible for their academics and schedules. This means they don’t hover, but step in only when they are asked when they perceive a need.
Neither parents nor children awful-ize the current situation. They have acceptance of the circumstances and don’t play into the drama. For instance, if a parent speaks about how awful the school district or college is handling academics, social distancing, etc, the student is likely to pick up on this vibe and this WILL affect his mood and perspective.
They are looking toward the future and making plans.
In order to give your child the best chance to succeed, a parent’s eyes and ears must be open. Look for any indication that something isn’t typical for your child.
Many parents are anxious and upset, sometimes more so than their child is. Be aware of how your emotions affect your behavior and your family. This is a difficult time. If you find yourself feeling anxious, “spinning, scattered, and disorganized, contact a professional and allow yourself the opportunity to reset and meet your own needs. You are very important to your family.
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