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Your Brain Loves Friendship!

February is the month of love and celebration of relationships. Looking deeper into this holiday, we see it’s not just candy and champagne. Healthy and satisfying relationships are beneficial for body and soul.
Let’s take a look at the benefits. 
Oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, AKA “happy” hormones, are released when we are with friends we trust …

We Train People How to Treat Us

Client #1: “My wife bosses me around. She makes all the big decisions, and she called me a wimp today. She doesn’t respect me at all.”
Coach Arlene- “It makes sense that you feel disrespected when you don’t have a voice in your marriage. What have you done so far to let her know you’d …

BRING THE PAIN

 COACHES AND COMEDIANS

I had a 3:45 am wake-up for a flight recently. Departure was at 6 am, so you can imagine my brain wasn’t fully functioning. I perused the United entertainment choices for a distraction that would not require significant brain function. I love comedy shows, and I found a Chris Rock documentary on …

Stepping into the New Year with …confusion.

Lately, my social news feeds have been inundated with new year inspirational or motivational posts. You might have seen them, too.
“10 things to bring into the new year!”
“10 things to leave behind in the new year!”
“5 simple things you can do to create happiness, mindfulness, self-awareness… ” The lists are endless.
Then there is advice …

SOME THINGS I LEARNED IN 2022

Knowledge and insights from clients, family, friends, and my own experiences. 
No, I didn’t just learn these things this year, although I have received reminders and both gentle and harsh nudges. 
Detach emotionally from sports! This is huge, but as a Saints fan, it is necessary for my mental health.
Don’t take anyone’s presence on this earth …

THE POWER OF CONNECTION

A few weeks ago, my sweet brother was laid to rest. It was unexpected and traumatic for our family and his friends. Burying a loved one is never easy, but the support I received from family and friends helped me through the grief. The messages and texts that I received throughout the process will …

IT’S THE SMALL THINGS

It was the cat vomit!
Hey, it’s 2022! We have all been dealing with BIG changes and transitions for the last two (is it more?) years. COVID, lock-downs, masks, war, political unrest, and a frightening increase in crimes. For the most part, you guys have been doing great! I have seen my clients, friends, and …

The Joy of Saying No and Setting Boundaries

When clients come to coaching hoping to become more organized, they expect to be given new tools or new ideas for a fancy-schmancy scheduler. They want to set new goals that they feel will help them to become instantly more efficient.
Although those are great ideas it’s not always the best place to start.
In fact, …

IS YOUR JUNIOR OR SENIOR READY FOR THEIR NEXT STEP?

This is an exciting time of the year for many young adults who are taking the next step into their futures. Graduating seniors may be leaving home with increased independence and challenges. They will be faced with difficult choices and decisions.
Rising juniors will be looking toward a busy year of college visits, college entrance …

TAKE CARE OF YALL’S MENTALS

You might recall Seattle Seahawk’s running back, Marshawn Lynch, gave an inspiring post-game interview in 2020 in which he advised younger players to “take care of ya’ll’s mentals…and take care of your chicken.” By chicken, he was referring to a player’s income. As you may surmise, one’s mentals are a person’s mental health. Clearly, …