Good news is that it’s not difficult to make simple changes to increase our self-awareness about who we are and how we relate to others. Let’s get started! Here are 4 simple ways to level up your relationships.

1-Listen more than you talk.

“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.” – Bryant H. McGill

This is number 1 for a reason! Have you ever had a long conversation with a friend and then realized that person had not once asked about you? “How are you? How was your vacation? How’s your family?” You probably are familiar with this scenario. It doesn’t feel very nice, does it? Listen more than you talk. Ask about the other person. It’s a simple, but respectful way to honor your relationships.

2-Avoid making assumptions about other people.

The hardest assumption to make is the one you don’t even know you’re making. -Douglas Adams

In today’s social media world, it’s too easy to create stories about other people’s lives and character. We are all aware that what is posted on IG or FB is what the other person wants you to see. As I have said many times in these newsletters. Mute and block are options! It’s perfectly fine to do so.

3-Be humble.

Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.     -C. S. Lewis

The definition of humility is simply “to take a modest view of one’s own importance.”

This definition resonates with me. It doesn’t mean that you don’t appreciate who you are or you don’t value your accomplishments. Practicing humility means that you know the difference between self-confidence and pride. If you feel compelled to remind others how great you are and about all the amazing things you have done, that might mean that you have low self-confidence. Truly confident people don’t feel the need to “toot” their horns.

4-Return your shopping cart.

Are you aware that a “Shopping Cart Theory?” exists? The theory suggests that whether or not someone returns their shopping cart to the corral or store is a measure of their character. I’m not going to weigh on on that, but it’s a good practice to do so. It’s another simple but meaningful gesture.

I’d love to hear what you have to add. What are your thoughts?